Do you have a track record of scaring away the men you like or just don’t know how to have a conversation with a guy you like and get him to get him to like you in the process?
This article will solve your problem by explaining 3 simple ways to build his attraction without compromising your ‘real self’.
Strategy 1 – Be funny
It doesn’t matter who you are talking to, if you can make someone laugh you are half way to winning them over. I have seen expert sales professionals do this. If you can confidently pump out the humor he will want to spend more time around you because you are light-hearted and make him happy.
Easier said than done right? Men like to think they are funny. So much so that they actually pride themselves on their humor. Women love a funny guy and they know it.
The question is how do you do it? How do you make a guy laugh?
Men are sarcastic, they love sarcastic humor. Although pulling off long joke like stories should be avoided at all costs, it’s too risky – instead opt for dark humor.
Try paying yourself out – as long as you aren’t too serious or harsh on yourself, self-depreciation is a winner.
For example you could say any of the following lines:
“Im smiling, this should scare you.”
“My IQ came back negative.”
Dry/ English type humor is also effective
” I went to the zoo the other day, there was only one dog – it was a shitzu.”
“I’m on a whiskey diet, I’ve lost three days already.”
What this also says or what you are subconsciously communicating is that you aren’t concerned about whether or not he likes you and this is the key to building his attraction. Being too keen kills attraction.
Strategy 2 – Hold a conversation
‘Real men’ love a woman with a brain. Men aren’t at all interested in your latest shopping trip or how many pairs of shoes you have in your wardrobe. Why would they be? Most of them don’t even enjoy shopping, they would rather pluck out their eyelashes one by one than spend a day looking for and trying on clothes. To give you an analogy, talking about superficial ‘chick’ subjects is about as interesting to him as you would find it if he told you in detail about how he is rebuilding the car engine in his garage.
Better idea: Talk to him about a social or environmental issue that you are passionate about. Converse about the news or discuss a sport you like but show him you understand the strategy. Be prepared to make a comment about whatever is up for discussion. If you don’t think you can confidently lead the conversation in a direction that he will be interested in or you get stumped as to what to say, ask him questions like:
– Who’s your favorite actor?
– Backpacking or a luxury hotel?
– Are you are morning person?
– Do you think money can buy you happiness?
– If you could only take three things, what three things would you take to a desert island?
– What do you usually get up to in the weekends?
– What is your favorite thing to do to chill out?
– What was a really difficult period of your life?
Strategy 3: Imagine you aren’t into him
It sounds counter intuitive, but this tip is especially important if you have a habit of scaring away the men that you really like. Men can sense when you like them. How? There’s a few things that you are probably doing.
– Being really nice to him
– Responding to his messages really quickly
– Giving him puppy dog stares and wearing a cute but nevertheless obvious ‘You are so lovely’ smirk
Instead try to imagine that you are hanging out with your friend, or better yet your grandmother. You wouldn’t drool all over her would you? You would act cool, calm and collected and non-chalant – right?. If you appear too keen, you give off the impression that you are desperate and needy and that darling is not a good look!
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