Dating can be a great thing, but taking a break can be great as well. After a long relationship, some people feel as if they have lost themselves. Women are particularly bad at feeling this way! But, men are no strangers to these feelings as well.

If you have ever felt in a relationship that you are someone else because of your partner, you know exactly what I am talking about. Who knew that taking a break from being single could allow you to grow as a person and learn. Here is how to improve your life while you are single! These tips can help you not only in your future love life, but also in your career, with friends and just everyday interactions with others.

Time Heals All

While you have time to yourself, it can be a very healing process. When you are always tending to others needs you generally forfeit your own needs and desires. This is a great way to get yourself back together and pamper yourself just a little bit. When we do not take the time to care for ourselves and fall in love with ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to do so? It is impossible for anyone to love someone that does not love themselves.

Time also heals wounds and broken hearts that can cause damage to future relationships. As time passes by you will have a chance to forget all of those nasty things that your ex-lover did or said and put them behind you. You must forgive to move forward, notice we didn’t say forget, but forgive. It is almost impossible to forget things that have hurt you, but you must move past them.

Self Acceptance – I am Who I am

Sometimes during a break from a dating relationship, people become involved in a self-destructive or some times even a self-hatred cycle. They may blame themselves for the faulty relationship and really carry this anger on for years. Not only does this anger and destruction put the person in a bad mood, but it can also cause tremendous health concerns. Did you know that high blood pressure, anxiety and sickness have been attributed to stress? What do you think this anger and frustration does to the internal organs, that’s right it eats away at them. You may be a young man or woman, but your internal organs and heart can only take so much abuse. You need to find a way whether it be reading a self-help book, counseling or a support group to let go of your anger. It will tear you up inside and cause others to not want to be around you.

So you are a little older, heavier and less hair? Who is perfect? No one, so do not be so hard on yourself. Appreciate what you do have and avoid sitting and feeling sorry for yourself because you do not look like a supermodel. Those people are not real, they are make believe with photo trickery, airbrushes and tons of makeup. No flaw or blemish on them, but that is because it has all been touched up. So enjoy what you have and feel blessed instead of disappointed.

Set New Goals

A great way to promote a healthy self is to set goals and plan how you want your life to be. Many people believe whether it is a dating relationship or their career that they are bystanders in their own life. This “bystander” theory could not be further from the truth. If you sit back and wait for things to happen, they never will. You have to take the “bull by the horns” so to speak and direct your own life. If you don’t do it, then who will? Is anyone else looking out for your best interests, financial situation or dating relationship? The answer is no, this is your job.

The best way to ensure that you are getting what you want is to set goals and plan out how you will achieve them. This is not hard to do, it just takes time, patience and a little bit of self-discipline. Write down your goals; list how you can achieve them and then DO IT!

Lee Blackspur is the owner of My-Dating-Advice.com which provides online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.

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