When you first start dating a new guy, you are discovering all sorts of things about each other which make it an exciting time. But what happens after that initial getting to know each other stage is over, how do you keep your new guy interested? It is easy to make mistakes which will eventually cause the end of the relationship if you don’t consider things from the guys perspective. Men and women are very different in how they see things in a relationship so it is important that you understand how a mans mind works so that you don’t put him off.
The first thing that you must do if you want to keep your new guy interested is to accept him as he is. If you try and change him in any way, he will immediately put his hackles up and back away. Welcome and accept the way he is, the way he dresses and the way he acts. There may be certain things that you’re not happy with, none of us are perfect, but accepting them at the beginning of a relationship will make him relax in your company and who knows, over time, he may change his ways naturally to suit your relationship.
Realise that a man is a visual creature, so make sure that you always look your best when you meet. There is no need to get yourself dolled up to the nines every time you see him, but make sure you have made an effort to show him that you care about him enough to bother to make yourself look good.
When your relationship is still in the early stages, find out about his interests and make an effort to learn a bit about them so that you can chat knowledgably with him. He will appreciate that you can understand what he is talking about and are able to participate in a conversation.
If you want to keep your new guy interested understand his need for his own space. If he wants a night or weekend with his mates, accept this. Don’t be constantly texting or emailing him. Men like some independence and will be put off if you are always chasing him and wanting to know where he is and what he is doing. If a relationship is to work, then trust on both sides is important.
Don’t always expect him to pay for you every time you go out. If you favour expensive restaurants or always want to go somewhere that costs lots of money he may start to think that he can’t afford to stay with you. Choose cheaper places sometimes and make it clear that you are happy in his company wherever it may be. Make sure that you pay your share or at least offer.
Be your own person and don’t change who you are to suit him. He will respect you for having your own opinions even if they are not the same as his own. If you agree with him all of the time just to please him he will eventually find out your true feelings and will fell irritated and annoyed that you were not bold enough to stick to your own opinions.
Keep in mind the gender differences between men and women. You will both bring different things to your relationship. Recognise these differences and learn how to work with them to make your relationship stronger rather than trying to change things.
A little effort and thought is required to keep your new man interested so that the relationship can continue further. If you put in the effort at the beginning there is a good chance that you will go on to have a long and happy partnership.
I have 20 years in the dating industry having set up and run my own dating agency in my local area. I am now concentrating on writing and am committed to helping women achieve success in the dating game. I have written a number of eBooks which you can view on my website including my latest one “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love with a Real Man in the Real World.”
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